Posted by likeasundancekid
There is an innate feeling of belonging to the world since ever we can remember. This world is small and includes mostly everything that we can just see in front of us. It includes our family, our pets, and our home. Little by little we come across with more than we ever imagined, and discover a world beyond that which is close to us. It is intriguing and overwhelming, but it has that mysterious wonder about it. We are drawn to it ever since we became conscious of it, somehow knowing we had a place and impact on it. It is ours as much as the small world in which we live in day and night. It is there at all times ready to provide whatever we look and long for. This world defines the very purpose of our own world. We know ourselves and we must know who we want to be in that world that encompasses all of us and all opportunities. These are abundant and can be as good to you as you wish them to be. It does not mean we have to leave our own little world for the big picture, the big bubble of life that is the world…it just means we must carry ourselves and our lives with us.
We can in a way bring our lives to everything we do and everywhere we go. Not physically and not just in memories. Everything that happened to us changed us as well. Every person that we built a relationship with has made an impression, many left a mark, and some will never leave our waking minds and hearts. A place, culture, social group, fashion style, does not define us. These are characteristics that are representative of our own tastes, attitudes, values and persona, as much as other characteristics are. But they do not have the power to assign a strict description to us. We can write in history our own description by everything that is related to us and paying close attention to the details that makes us who we truly are. We certainly hold influence in our friends; we adopt cultures, and express ourselves in various distinct ways. It is the variety and unpredictable yet authentically true character of what we do, say and think that speaks on our behalf.
It can be daunting and confusing to try and define ourselves according to the world we see around us. To attempt and have it explain our origins is understandable and often necessary to clarify our perception of ourselves. But as we become engaged with the world, and develop ourselves as human beings, we find our own meaning in what we choose to include in our lives. Friendships are not made with the group of people we find easy access to, we seek to build those close relationships with those we find impossible to not be with, those we are deeply interested in and build a connection with. We bear the confidence and drive to move to a place that we feel comfortable in- find the place we fit in and can call home.
This is a particular point that goes unnoticed and disregarded by many- to find home is one of the hardest achievements in life. They say that home is where love and friendships are. But these relationships and bonds will always be there if both people are committed. Yet, every day the city wakes up in a stupor of traffic-driven madness, and at times it is calmly sweet and blossoming with life…and we face this world, a new day, and perform the very best version of ourselves. We show our true color and hide them too. We take risk even when not conscious of it, and we undergo constant change…day and night. We live and the world lives with us. And this bond, this relationship we hold with our environment, with our society, our culture, our street-corner coffee shop and drive-in theatre, is what defines the course of life we want to take.
There is a piece or part of this world that you want to call your own- go find it and make it yours. Make it the place you go to when you want to be home, when you want to be happy, when you want to take risk and be at easy. Be in the place that you love to be you every day. There is a saying that states the world is a stage and it most certainly is…and there is a play we constantly write called life in our very own world. To know whom you want to be and where you want to be can define you.
We will never renounce to be the person that our past and present molded and influences us to be…but we have the choice of being more than that. There is a possibility of taking pieces from everywhere and crafting ourselves to be worldly, much more complex and unique than we thought possible. There is no direction that would take us further from ourselves, but there are some that guided by the heart makes us thrive and love…endlessly, powerfully, fearlessly
I do honestly mean that we can love by feeling love from belonging. There is no place like home right. Time to take initiative and go where we desire to be- to be ourselves
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May 12, 2012
Posted by likeasundancekid
There are certain feelings that we learn to regard as negative, opposed to our well-being and happiness. Every feeling in its own right has a reason for overtaking our present state, for however long it is necessary or feels right. Whether they are of a negative or positive essence depends on the person, on how they perceive it and how they choose to experience it. Feelings are intricately related to our attitude. Neither one produces or reflects the other, but they are rather two balancing factors that shape our present state. One can be happy but fail to recognize it because of the impulse to concentrate on recognizing everything that is unappealing and negative. On the other hand, one can be presented with barrier and obstacles in life, yet renounce to recognize them as such and ignore them in the journey to success. The attitude with which we choose to meet a feeling is the deciding factor for the path we choose to take in life. In the end, we act according to what we think best, and for the most part this is derived from how we feel. Emotions are the force of our essence and awareness of us. Most decisions we make are not rational or ethical, but rather taken on impulse as a reaction to how we feel.
Someone who believes in being rational might debate that we seek to feel emotions that are pleasurable, optimistic. Yet, if our attitude does not reflect this impulse, we could potential wish to feel a whole wide range emotions that are not necessarily positive. It is important to recognize that we hold a power over our feelings and ourselves. This recognition could affect how we behave, how we react to our situations, how we live, and inevitable- who we become. Our actions dictate the sort of person we are, which means that our attitudes can produce the person we want to be if we choose. So why not work on our self- awareness and alter our attitudes to bring us the best in life by recognizing it and accepting it under that light.
Out there is the whole wide world, and within us it is however we wish to perceive it. It is like painting the world any color you like. Colors are perceived as holding an emotional value- warm or cold, passive or vibrant- but everyone has their own interpretation and reaction to every particular color. That is the originality of our own selves; we reflect on our memories and choose how to feel towards each color. So, paint every moment with whatever color you like, but because you mean to see it that shade, not because you feel obliged to it. If a moment in life makes you sad, makes you feel blue…embrace it, experience it, and then own up to your power to feel the way you truly want to feel and make that feeling true and real, paint the world, your life, every moment the color you choose.
We should not strive to repress or avoid feelings that we feel are negative. Those can have a positive impact in mysterious ways, and makes the bright side of things much more powerful. There is a balance to everything, two sides that work together. If you know someone who is overcome with a negative emotion and takes a bad course of action, don’t judge him or her or avoid him or her. Negative thinking and emotions are not contagious. Love and compassion on the other hand, are contagious. Recognize that they are human and can easily be overcome by emotions, and not always do we know what the right attitude to have is, or have enough strength to fight for our own well-being. But there is always a way out, and most times its aided by the little things in life- whether it’s a cup of coffee, a smile from a stranger, or your friends letting you know that its right to feel however you need to feel, but that we should not forget what kind of live we want to live and how to experience it.
The attitudes we seek to control on our own lives should also be the ones we have towards others. Seek the best in you and you will seek the best in others inevitably. Make the best out of life and life will continue to provide you with great opportunities and moments. The key is to make up your mind to have the right attitude to handle whatever comes your way. Problems, negative moments and thought only hold power in our lives when we give them a right to. You can rise above their influencing nature and make your own predicament of what is to come out of these influences. Do not wait for tomorrow, because otherwise you give up on the present, and fail to make something of your future memories…and those are more important than many give credit to. How inspiring is it to look back on life and feel that you did your best under all circumstances, even the gloomy moments. That is a great indicator that you lived, you are your own wonderful self. Go and be the person you want to be, find the right attitude under all circumstances and live a wonderful life.
May 4, 2012
Posted by likeasundancekid
Supposedly, to reach the highest potential in life is a goal. Supposing this to be true and holding onto its imperativeness seems empty. Vacant of hope that we are always entitled to more than we credit ourselves to. It would be like limiting ourselves to the point in life in which there is no room for improvement, no growth, and life having no effect on us whatsoever. To reach the furthest point we can lead our lives to, is to give up and fall short of what we could accomplish.
There was such a time when we could believe in everything we dreamed of, in our youth we rejoiced in knowing we were to become grand characters in this world we know little of. Then time proved to us that to dream is to stand against the course of time and the social belief that success is a rarity. Yet, success looks and feels different for everyone. It is uncommon for someone to succeed as one is meant to. After all, only if you paved the road ahead and went the whole way blind, you succeeded. But to be successful is to capture the moment of everything you can see in order to not fall flat at each step. The road goes on, but it does not necessarily lead anywhere, it might just keep on going…
Why does there have to be a goal, an end in mind? Some things are not meant to be answered, planned or analyzed. At least partially. There has to be room for more, for the enigmatic future and what it holds in surprise.
It is our universal right to dream, whether we believe in them is another matter…the one that makes a difference between being confident-assertive and uncertain-doubtful. The latter conforms with life and becomes comfortably stuck in an unattractive passing of time. The former speaks on behalf of dreams that might be mere ideas, but are those that hold promising improvement of life. Words lead to actions which become habits, jobs turn into careers, and you become what you do along the way. You create your character by interacting with the world you live in and seeking to learn about what you most care about. You become designer and creator of your own destiny. Sounds simple and truth be told, I think it is. No matter what perspective you look at it from, life is constantly being perceived as grand, complex and interesting…and we live that complex, grand and interesting life every day in the simple things we do. The small articulations of our character and disposition to be content every day is what amounts to become the life we want to lead.
Think of it this way- many say that if you are going to dream, might as well dream big. It does not matter if you don’t reach your goal so long as you find yourself where you want to be. Suppose a man dreams to visit and regard the places he considers the wonders of the world. Would it not be more appropriate to rejoice in being able to see, hear, touch, feel and love those places? Those are the wonders that we hold closer to us but become only recognizable and apparent when in relation to those ambitious dreams that require us to put our whole selves together. Everything starts by opening our eyes first thing in the morning, the rest is history, and it’s what you make of it.
If we do reach the highest potential in life…then what? Wouldn’t we want to wait and see what lies ahead and keep going in this endless habit of living adventurously…it reminds me of the joyous feeling many seek- of sharing their lives with someone and getting to know them the whole way through. Nothing ends if it matters to you.
Oh hey, rock ‘n’ roll will never die.
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August 17, 2011
Posted by likeasundancekid
Life is a performance of our very own personality and disposition of character. Weather we are introverts or extroverts, or rather when we choose to be one over the other, we are always being ourselves for the recognition from others. The “others”, that distinguishable group of people whom we might just cross paths with once but remain always in our minds, is our audience. They are just as attentive as we are of the vulnerability of exposure of character but are no judge. They hold no just or reasonable reason for proclaiming what is right or wrong, more over try to impose their own ethics and ideal against us, but they have, do and always will be bearers of opinion and energetic commentators. Let them be, and …just be!
It becomes second nature to limit our own first instincts. It is not fear, or morals that prevents us from doing things we desire most times (nothing illegal, just acts that we tend to depict as “crazy”; crazy because we need to have double the will to do the act and be confident, perhaps half the time we never find out what we really want because we only know once we get it…thus we should push ourselves forward more often, might get a lot out of it), it is usually our own lack of self-love. By tradition we find it acceptable and rather appealing to do something nice towards those whom we are fond of, yet we hardly ever put as much effort and go through the hassle to do something for the attainment of our own contentment. Sure, we do eat, go shopping, spend ridiculous amounts of time watching movies or surfing the net; but moreover, would you go out of your way to do something you consider “special” and normally expect as an act of kindness towards you from another subject? Yes, that’s where I’m going with this; we put ourselves in second place much too often and expect good things to come rather than seek them out. Thus, when an opportunity arises to do something unexpected, spontaneous and most ardently desirable, we let it pass and say “I don’t have the guts to do that” or “I don’t have the time to do those things”. Do we ever have time; do we ever really not have time? If you want it but complain about it not being enough, probably not; if you live it and do something then you seem to actually be, having it.
Back to a previous thought- we are not being our original selves when we think no one is looking, we just put our guard down and let our whole being shine through our every act, expression, feeling and speech. It is the closest display of ourselves to that which we don’t pay much attention to when with friends. It is noticeable when one realizes we attract to us, personalities which are not only compatible but fairly similar to our own in certain ways. It does not mean one person is simple or a personality can be narrowed down to a stereotype of character type, but it means we know exactly what values and traits we like and we hold on to. Stereotypes are unjust labels that prevent a subject from expanding the horizons of their own nature. It drives many to believe in a “norm”, and consider the unknown an “other”, our opposite. It would be kind to ourselves to perform that adventurous side we all posses and try to find out how we feel towards the world by interacting with it in different approaches. That is where the extroverted character thrives in gaining humility, understanding, and being open minded. Just because you don’t accept it does not mean you can not attempt to understand it and acknowledge it.
At one moment or many in our lives, it will be impossible to avoid recognizing our own moral, spiritual and emotional struggle and disappointment from the world we live in. Suffocated in our own environment we are lead to seek for more whenever we find it in ourselves to make opportunities present themselves…literally create them from thin air.
Space is not confined to physical boundaries; it is even within the spaces we perform that space can be sought. There is more to our lives, always, it is just about discovery. WE perform in a space by interacting with it, being aware of where we are and how we feel in it and towards it. Find space where you feel a lack of it.
Rather than stumbling upon our own character, we should invest more time and effort in creating ourselves. Just as we get to know others we can get to know ourselves by being, performing. Feeling has a lot to do with it (we do what makes us happy and we feel comfortable doing) and is a powerful force that gets the best out of us. Memories relive feelings, feelings trigger our drive to seek for more of those emotions and thus act and do what we will greatly enjoy. It is a chain reaction. We should not try to live through our memories, but attempt to create more by living in the present with all our passion. The show must go on, be the best version of you, be truthful, honest, fearless, confident, smile and take over your own life…that’s what the world goes round for.
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July 16, 2011
Posted by likeasundancekid
I heard not too long ago someone say- “people always complain of long distance calls as if they had to walk the whole way”. It is a great line, because it bears truth in every word. It is incredibly noticeable how easily it is to complain about things and talk about what we don’t like. Probably it is because it affects our every day life…or rather we let it get the attention it does not deserve. Good things and accomplishments are not as noticeable. Why not? After all those are the things we work hard or enjoy the most, so why not highlight and talk more about the good. It might not create the most interesting or captivating conversation you might think. Just because there is no problem it does not mean it is less enigmatic. What you might regard as one simple accomplishment might end up being what triggers other good things to come in your life, and be an influential change in your life. It is much more than what we give credit to it. Maybe because we don’t give it as much attention as it deserves we miss out on the chain-effect benefits it could bring.
Time tells the truth, and it keeps everything from happening all at once. It is the key to everything. No such thing as right timing, which is just you making it happen when you know you can, which in fact can be any time of the day. Yet we blame time. That bitch, you might say. That is absurd; because you were quite aware you have a whole brand new day from the moment you wake up in the morning to do what you want. Responsibilities? There is time for everything, just keep focused and comitt to doing one thing at a time. Time is not the problem for bad health, poor finance, stress, bad relationships, unachieved goals or unfulfilled life. Time is what makes it possible for you to pay attention to yourself and do something about your happiness and everything you are entitled to in life. Why is it so much easier to blame our problems or obstacles on someone/something else rather than addressing them and doing something productive towards a better result?
Time, distance and silence never get in the way of life unless you let them. I am aware sometimes having so many responsibilities and duties to take care of can be overwhelming. We have all been there. When there is barely any time to think or even remember what day of the week it is. Yet, one should never forget about oneself in the process. When you do find time in the day, any time, even if its just five minutes, and wherever that might be, do take time for yourself. You can do something that makes you happy or just do nothing at all. But enjoy it with all the passion you can summon. Make sure you catch up with yourself. As crazy as it might sound, it goes a long way to ask ourselves- how are you? Am I happy? What are my dreams today? What do I want? These are not questions we just get to ask our friends and those we care for. We need to care for ourselves too and make sure we are in complete harmony with ourselves before we can be there for others. Otherwise we are just trying to balance everything on a very odd manner.
Remember…whatever you think is your problem is your solution too.
Perhaps time is what makes a difference, or it was just us all along. Time is ours to do what we propose ourselves to do, so it makes sense to think we have the power to make a difference. One thing at a time. No reason in trying to do everything at once. Make everything you do count, make it grand. It often occurs that in the end we finish doing what we are supposed to do, and we never figure out how we ever managed it, but we knew it was possible, thus it took place. Believe in yourself and time never runs out. And if it does, there is always tomorrow. And at the end of the day smile for what you have accomplished, however small you think the deed is or however grand. It is for you to enjoy and celebrate.
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June 3, 2011
Posted by likeasundancekid
The world need not remind us that a happy story is not an interesting one. We are pulled by curiosity, aroused by intrigue, and constantly attracted to the inexplicable hardships of life. It is understandable and inevitable to stumble around, we don’t know all the answers but we learn them. Sometimes we make the right decisions and sometimes we don’t. Either way we always gain knowledge, experience, and confidence in the power we have over our lives. The path is not always crystal clear, but we are aware of it being there and leading somewhere. The destination need not be exact, but worth taking risks to discover what lies ahead. The product of our every day leads to our better selves. Live every day the way you intend to write history, because that is what we leave behind and we make way for our dreams. To dream is to envision the future and learn what we desire. We probably should more often ask ourselves, what do I want? For the most part, we never answer honestly. It is almost as if we thought someone could guess or take a look at our thoughts, even thought it is improbable or impossible, but why take the risk of even thinking about it. It is a beauty. It is the innocence we have, the unconscious shyness we hold on the dreams and wishes that take the most passion from us. We feel as if it were almost forbidden to picture it, or attempt to feel joy from it. Maybe that is because deep down, on some rational level, we are aware that what we envision and dream about is possible. Why wouldn’t it be? Trying not to get all scientific and draw up some coherent answer. Let’s step back and just try to see this question from a psychological stand point. If you begin to think that you are limited, that dreams are unachievable, and that some things are just not meant to happen…well, that is exactly the kind of world and life you will get to live in. Some things have to be believed to happen or be seen. And many times you have to believe in what is crazy and ridiculous. You have nothing to loose, but most likely you will really enjoy the thrill of even imagining it. And maybe you will even gain the real experience of achieving or getting what you most desire.
In order to enjoy life, we think we must experience great sorrow and pain. Even if it is inevitable, it should never be a goal, or expected. Focus on the goodness of life. And trust me, there is more than you care to acknowledge. Give yourself some credit and enjoy what you have accomplished. Smile for the sake of it. Do something that makes you happy. Dream every day, wish for something crazy, maybe that is what we are bound to do. Is it enough? It should, because it propels us to look forward to life and greet the unexpected. I assume most of us fear the unknown, and that is OK. In a way, if we get to know ourselves more, then we know where we stand in relation to the world we inhabit and the people we interact with, thus we are ready for whatever life might bring our way. But do remember to make your way as well. Routines are great, but sometimes you just need change. Embrace it! If you do something every other day, that you would normally not get enough courage to do, by the end of one year you would be more accepting of the world around you and the people you meet. Let’s admit it, it takes courage to expose ourselves to those we just met, and even more to learn about someone else. Many times getting to know another person can have a significant impact in our lives. It is discovery of you and the other person, a give and take and a whole lot that can not be explained.
I believe that a happy story is one that was lived passionately, and underneath and beyond it lies more than I could ever account for. Nothing can be described in absolute certainty…there is not correct description to begin with. Things are more complex than what they appear to be; I am referring to occurrences in life. Coincidences, luck, the occasional too perfect moment? You name it what you would like to believe. Life is nothing but a dream. What we want. It sounds incredulous, but I would assume most of us just want to be happy. Well, go and be happy, it is that simple. Live your dream; be happy with yourself, with what you can do. Broaden the limits; erase them completely if you had like.
Right now, think of something you really want to achieve, receive or do. Enjoy having the ability to even dream about it, that is more than many have been able to do. One day, it might just be possible, or you can make it happen. Time will only tell. Even better, do something you probably should not do because you don’t have all the courage to do. Just make sure you don’t get a heart attack from the thrill! Not sure I am making any sense at all. Perhaps it is not meant to be clear. One thought triggers another and I mean every word, but there is no clear picture. I will leave it at that…
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May 26, 2011
Posted by likeasundancekid
On and on I keep hearing the same rants of frustrated singletons in their search for love. Well, let’s not go as far as saying love, maybe it would be best to keep it limited to finding a compatible companion. Already, that is a mission in itself, and not an easy one. Do we really know what we want? Are we even aware that just as we look for certain feelings and connections, the other person has an agenda too? Most likely that is not the case. It already takes a lot of effort to remain calm and understand what one goes through in the dating realm. There is a huge motivation that derives from song lyrics, movies, television shows and the spectacle we see in our everyday life, that we perceive as the opportunity for us to be the whole person we want others to appreciate and like. This model we project emphasizes the qualities we like in ourselves. I presume we also hope the other person would be attracted to these characteristics. It sets the standard, the expectations; this is as good as it gets. But, is that all you really are? Absolutely not! A point which signals that one should pay close attention to first impressions and encounters, but should be open minded to what motivates and shapes the characteristics we find so remarkable and attractive in the person.
We live in a society that behaves according to custom, but to be honest we seem to be stuck in the middle of a transition of customs. It creates a lot of confusion. Dating has broadened its practice into the traditional- based on communication- the contemporary- based on appearances- and the new generation- letting gadgets and Web pages make justice for you. Do we have to find someone that shares our views on dating to be able to have a good time and understand each other?
Somehow one gets around to being on that first date. Hurray! Tension only grows. There are no rules to dating but tradition has created what I perceive as the “social contract to conduct on dates and relationships”. By this I mean, we feel there is a right way of behaving and acting, when in fact it takes two to be in a relationship and make it work, and there is no right way. If there is, you will both find out what it is. When it comes to rules, never mind them, you will both develop a connection and understanding of each other’s lives and drives. Respectfully you will be able to share and enjoy a life that is based on what you both desire.
I find it absurd that being mysterious and enigmatic is considered a good quality in dating; it seems to indicate one should be less than what they could be and in a way act the part. By all means, it emphasizes physical and sexual attraction. What else could you try to find attractive if characters are not exposed? Perhaps one need not provide a whole life story, but sharing interests and conversing over various subjects of interest is a great way of getting to know one another. They say the best first dates occur when you are already friends with the person you date. In a way I can see the positive view of it, because the way you get to know a friend is usually healthy, rational and natural; it would be wonderful if dating could be just as enjoyable and relaxing. Some people are faithful to themselves and do not try to put up appearances that are not a reflection of themselves, but many do have different sides which should all be learned over time. It is the states of mind, which dictate mood and consequently affect what we say and what we do. It is quite a significant factor to keep in mind when judging someone from first impressions. Life affects us every day and never the same way.
This is what I think of dating and finding a partner:
It is a life-long conversation, a sharing of time with great passion. It is finding the one person whom you want to talk about anything and everything. You could never run out of things to say, the world speaks loudly and conversations bring it to life. When you want to hear what the other person has to say, the way they articulate their feelings and express themselves, how they show their true character, it creates a connection. You never know what to expect and you never try to anticipate their answers, because you know that one is never the same. We undergo changes and we continue to develop, which makes our getting to know and understand each other never ending. We could tell our own story, but beneath it lies more than what we tend to acknowledge. The passion is always there, and the attraction just grows. It is the sharing of silence, a comfortable passing of time. No one has to say anything, and neither would you ever want to ask for more. Life together, a life-long conversation, it has no ending, it bears moments of silence too, but it always promises more.
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May 18, 2011
Posted by likeasundancekid
There seems to be an endless amount of ever so popular sayings which express how one should live and what one should refrain from doing. Like a recipe to life, the steps towards the widely sought-for “normal” life. It is the liberty of developing one’s own thoughts that is impossible to separate from its expression in writing or speech. Although we tend to prevent ourselves from revealing all that influences our thoughts, and moreover prevent ourselves altogether from really saying what we mean, the base of an idea is always for grabs by the wickedly attentive minds that invest time on what they hear and read. It has been advised by anonymous person x, that one should write about what one knows of rather than what they don’t have a clue about. Aha! Objection! I completely disagree. And I do mean absolutely disagree.
I can not think of one person who holds complete certainty of an idea or thought pertaining to a certain subject. In order to accept a circumstance and state of events, one needs to form an opinion on whatever facts and feelings he or she can learn and perceive. We all have been there, when a subject of conversation is introduced and someone makes comments which you so ardently disagree with. Perhaps you will find them far off from the truth you accept, straight-up ridiculous and irrational, or simply based on very little information. But can you really blame that person for not holding on to that particular opinion you hold, or moreover from being so particularly familiar with the subject. We are not born knowing it all, even thought sometimes we wish we could profusely understand what we can’t get a straight idea on. It will drive you crazy, I’m sure it already has. To be honest, you, me and everyone else is going to meet that one other character whom speaks his mind with such confidence, and we are going to despise the moment for being unavoidable, because we can not bear the idea of ever holding an argument that will not end in agreement. Your reaction to it could be somewhat altered, with almighty determination that is.
I will provide another way to look at it. We all have opinions on subjects that are introduced to us in our everyday life. It is the ones we know so little of or are not ultimately trivial that we tend to keep our opinion of silenced. Why disturb the peace and contribute to the points of view that can come to light, right? Yeah, does not sound quite balanced in terms of positive feedback. If one finds a way to express an idea without causing pain, aggression, or disturbing others, it should count as a valid and very significant idea. Let’s hope others are kind and respectful human beings that would take the time to listen. It does not hurt really; one can either listen and dismiss the thought, or take it as another point of view, which not necessarily means one needs to agree with it, but certainly keeps one open minded and aware of other sentiments. I think it’s quite valuable in itself.
Do write and speak your mind. You and the rest of us would miss on what could be a unique, significant and revealing thought. Write and speak about what you might not know anything about. Why not? Because someone might be annoyed, disagree with you or you might make a fool of yourself. Correct, it does not sound appealing. On the other hand, many times one has spoken about what one feels or certainly does know about and we got the same response. Inevitable; it is some kind of universal fact of life. There will come a time, when someone will know when we keep ourselves from speaking our minds, and maybe what we mean will remain what we don’t say. Be aware, just because you don’t say it or write it, it doesn’t mean you are not revealing it. Someone will read beyond what you write it, and listening attentively will discover what motivates such thoughts. It has happened, and it will again and many more times to come.
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May 18, 2011
Posted by likeasundancekid
Is this all there is? The moments we wait for, the moments that define who we are, the state of life as we know it…never ending and destined for something bound to happen. It always seems like we are preparing ourselves for the inevitable. Perhaps it’s the fear of the unknown, which would explain our irrational self-preparation. Maybe it is something towards which we can direct our energy, and preserve that motivation for life. No matter how much we live, we tend to think of what has not yet taken place, or more often, what could have been. From this point of view, life sort of becomes a commodity, something to which we agree to because it bears rules, customs, limits, and we can fool ourselves into believing anything and everything. Pessimistic would be the thought of accommodating to the norm and denying oneself the pleasure and grand liberty of being somewhat unique. One thing is to comply with the norm, yet remaining aware of our own self experience in life and our performance of that character we build; another is to conform and limit yourself to be whom you are expected to become. It is the bending of the rules, defying what is perceived to be the circumstances of life itself, and making of it what you desire that defines you. It is never too late to become the person you could have been, wanted to be, or even did not know you were capable of being. This is all there is…it is the very essence of will and power, for the unknown ahead of us. Yet it is much more, because it is also everything we feared of in the past, what we had to overcome, what we learned, enjoyed and experienced.
Today we live the future we feared yesterday, or in an optimistic point of view, it is everything we accomplished for us to enjoy. The tales we are told all bear a similar characteristic, they all have a conclusion, the inevitable end of things as we know it and forever and always restored to a peaceful memory. Our lives are not tales, but they most certainly are stories worth living, but I don’t think they should be bound to an end. It is the spirit of living because we can that prolongs our happiness and essence. As long as we dream, wish for what we truly desire, always enjoying the chase but honourably rejoicing from the victory of attaining our goals, we keep ourselves timeless. Stretch the limits; actually, you don’t have to care for them at all, who is going to stop you? Well, certainly you could, but I don’t quite think you would want to do that…yet many of us do. Truth be told, we often have to remind ourselves that not everything is under control, life is not as static as we thought. Actually, if it were that way, it would be pretty chaotic and undeserving of life. By which I mean, the pleasure that time provides for one to appreciate everything and anything. To be able to feel, touch and respond with the passion that our character demands. We are all different, but we are all the same because of that too. We try to understand each other, we reach for affection and give bits of ourselves in the process. Yet, we also ignore ourselves too. It is a disappointing universal truth that most of us, all of us, from time to time tend to concentrate on routines, schedules and time that we forget to check up on our own well being. I am assured we know our opinion and regard for the people we encounter and interact with in our lives, yet we sometimes fail to form an opinion on ourselves. Time and experiences change us, everyone is witness, and we should be in tune to the changes we undergo. Get to know yourself. Do things that make you happy. Make sure you give yourself the attention you deserve. If you are in good terms and happy with yourself, the more probable others will be just as comfortable and enjoy your company. After all, can we expect others to accept us as we are if we don’t accept ourselves first?
This is all there is. The day ends and the break of dawn brings a new beginnings; a continuation of our lives, yet a beginning. If you are going to do something, might as well do it with all your might. Get the best out of you; it might just bring you closer into becoming the person you want to be. But do yourself a favour and leave the expectations as a guide, not a goal. Along the way, the decisions you make might lead you in the opposite direction but in the process it might be the direction that you are drawn to. We think of were we want to be ahead, but in the way might discover were we know we want to be. Wherever that is, it is what it is, life the way you choose to accept and live it.
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May 12, 2011
Posted by likeasundancekid
To be a friend is to be understanding. We consider this quality essential; we accept it not as a duty but rather as a facilitator. It allows us to share an experience, a concern, and to meet the other person half way. We understand things our own way, able to connect to the idea that makes the foundation of someone else’s thoughts. But we never fully and completely understand, and that is OK. It is our willingness to accept the original self and the different other, the reigning difference that we try to overcome in order to be there for each other. One need not understand in order to accept, or accept in order to understand. They are two separate things that interact and when they coincide at some point in reason, it is then that a friend becomes supportive.
There are certain habits and qualities we posses that makes us who we are; they are in fact our very essence. And not everyone we meet is going to like, agree or accept them. In no way does that mean we should attempt to change ourselves, not unless it creates discomfort with ourselves or truly harms those we care for. But if we can overcome those qualities we don’t like in others, they could certainly learn to accept ours. By this I don’t intend to say that they should agree with them and be content, but rather accept as a difference which defines a person and we have no right to ask them to alter or change for us. Maybe thinking that getting rid of the disliked characteristic would be the solution, when in fact learning to accommodate and accept that there are ideas, characteristics and habits in others we are not going to agree with, just as they won’t agree with some of ours, is what allows us to be friends. Accepting is key, and it is not easy. Sometimes it gets deep down to our core and every inch of our body wishes it could repel the distracting dislike, but it won’t do any good to concentrate on that which we can not alter.
Once we reach the idea that a person is a unique individual with traits they have developed and lived with for several years, we could attempt to understand that they might not want to change who they are, or in some cases they might want to, but it is not easy. It is a process they will have to deal with in their own terms and time, accepting themselves as they are and the idea of who they want to be. It is up to us to accept that these are circumstances in which as interacting human beings we all find ourselves in. We can understand it our own way, and try to accept it as a universal passage we all have in common. Neither do we have any reasonable excuse to propose them nor should we change. Learning to like that we are not the same; that we are different, makes us like each other as we truly are. To accept uncertainty, unpredictability, embrace the living motivations that drive us, all coming from different places, all meeting half way in friendship is what it comes down to.
Try to understand others and you will be one step closer to being understood. It is the taking that allows us to give, we give acceptance, we get understanding, and vice versa. Perhaps we should consider our expectations of others once in a while. After all, how many times do we really even reach the standards we have of ourselves. It is because we fail once in a while that we get to exercise our full potential of everything we could be. We slowly get a little further into living ourselves rather than merely being ourselves. From time to time we should not expect so much, and most certainly we should treat others just the way we would like to be treated. Moreover, don’t think that the precise way you like to be treated equals that of others. Meeting half way…
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May 3, 2011
I have nothing to say, yet I am saying it
